Every society has some sort of person they have as an outcast. Not every person is the saint in town, there are those that everyone would rather they weren't even in existence.
The point to this blog isn't about them, but about what to do with them. Many times society wants us either for or against such people. After all, they're a pain in the tooth, and who would want to hang around them? People would rather that you are at either camp, but not both.
Well, I decided to move above such reasoning. I realized we're all grown up, and many times such ways of thinking doesn't help me much. I need one camp as much as I need the other. All of them have one thing or another that can build me up. Either way, associating myself to one camp or another is also quite twelve-years-old.
My major decision is how to juggle these two. How do I do this such that I don't shut out one at the expense of the other? How do I show each one of them my appreciation without one feeling disowned or stabbed in the back?
I guess now the only thing I need is wisdom from above. God help me be a good Christian by loving everyone, as you had commanded.
Sunday, January 16, 2011
He loves me, I love him not...
We all dream to be in the situation where you're in love with someone, share the special moments, be the Prince Charming/Cinderella, and have the wow bubble-moment...
But that isn't always the case. There are times when love is one-sided. There are those times when you're in love with someone who doesn't even seem to recognize your existence. Or when someone nags you with all the I'm-so-in-love-with-you speeches, and you just start wishing you were deaf, coz it all sounds like some form of annoying jibber-jabber. So what do you do in this situation?
There's the avoiding tactic (which I'm a fond addict of ). In such an occasion, you do anything in your power to evade the person. You run across the road when he approaches, or suddenly pretends that you have to make the all-important phone call, you ignore their every call. You do everything possible to drop them, until they get the point. Problem is - some of them never get the point and try even harder, and it becomes an annoying Tom-and-Jerry call.
Or you can play along in public, and confront them in private. That means when they call you all these yummy names, and make you "feel" special, you play along, and pretend you're swept off your feet all along. But as soon as the two of you are all alone, you get to the nitty-gritty and just tell them you're not that into them. Problem is - You must be very good in acting, it may lead to extremely embarrassing situations.
But it gets worse when it comes to office affairs. When you have to see the person ever day. When you can't cross the road, and pretending can't even work. Or when they're your neighbour at the office. I guess then you need all the wisdom you can muster. You have no choice but to call the raw raw, and face it head-on, with all hopes it doesn't turn into breaking news.
Whichever way, one-sided relationships are part of life, and we'd rather deal with it now than jump ship at the altar.
But that isn't always the case. There are times when love is one-sided. There are those times when you're in love with someone who doesn't even seem to recognize your existence. Or when someone nags you with all the I'm-so-in-love-with-you speeches, and you just start wishing you were deaf, coz it all sounds like some form of annoying jibber-jabber. So what do you do in this situation?
There's the avoiding tactic (which I'm a fond addict of ). In such an occasion, you do anything in your power to evade the person. You run across the road when he approaches, or suddenly pretends that you have to make the all-important phone call, you ignore their every call. You do everything possible to drop them, until they get the point. Problem is - some of them never get the point and try even harder, and it becomes an annoying Tom-and-Jerry call.
Or you can play along in public, and confront them in private. That means when they call you all these yummy names, and make you "feel" special, you play along, and pretend you're swept off your feet all along. But as soon as the two of you are all alone, you get to the nitty-gritty and just tell them you're not that into them. Problem is - You must be very good in acting, it may lead to extremely embarrassing situations.
But it gets worse when it comes to office affairs. When you have to see the person ever day. When you can't cross the road, and pretending can't even work. Or when they're your neighbour at the office. I guess then you need all the wisdom you can muster. You have no choice but to call the raw raw, and face it head-on, with all hopes it doesn't turn into breaking news.
Whichever way, one-sided relationships are part of life, and we'd rather deal with it now than jump ship at the altar.
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